I wasn't sure where to post this -- Food, The Arts or Life. Mods, feel free to move it if necessary.

A waitress's revenge

All I can say is that I hope that poor woman, whoever she is, didn't marry that jacka*s*s* who pulled that stunt with the Faberge egg. Purely sadistic.

I think people who work in restaurants are right to be contemptuous of the customers, and the more entitled the customers feel, the more obnoxious they become.

ITA! Especially about the egg-man. That woman should have RUN away from him.

Egg Man had best not ever have his identity revealed. What a jerk!

I agree the thing with egg-man is sadistic. It completely reveals that he finds it amusing to cause his lady distress. It was a test. If she accepts that treatment in those few moments, he knows he will be able to get away with abusing her in future.

I agree, obviously a sadist.

When I read this account of egg man, I was hoping that it was just ignorance and that he was not doing this deliberately. But I see he was just a jerk. A poor idea for a joke. I pitied this poor woman for being so eager for his proposal.
My first husband of many years ago was fond of "jokes" like this. He would tell me he would not take me on a planned visit to my parents (I did not drive at the time), then make fun of me when I went to the attic to cry. Of course the whole thing was a joke and I had no sense of humor and something was wrong with me for crying. Whenever I cried, he would tell me to "cry on your own time."
I am so glad those days are long over and I am married to a wonderful, kind, generous man who values me now.

Good heavens, Rebecca, how awful. You are well rid of that jerk. How callous.

Yes, Diva, thanks, I am definitely in a better place in my life, now.

Something about the 'waitress' using her job to collect material for a book bothers me. It seems she would naturally be exaggerating incidents for dramatic effect. And she sounds harsh and judgmental about the customers. For instance, people who don't really know 'celebs' might enjoy the waitress's opinion that they're *always* spoiled people who are more demanding than others at the table.

I haven't particularly noticed that in my experiences and I've dined with a few. IMO, 'waitress' just chose to notice that 'celebs' stated allergies when ordering. Many people have allergies to certain groups of food, for example shellfish or mushrooms (to which truffles are related.) My hub isn't famous. We always have to make sure their are no shellfish ingredients in any meal. One time I had to take him to the hospital because there was.

I do not doubt for a moment she had customers who were spoilt brats , famous or not , we both know how difficult some can be though food allergies are fair enough , I dont want anything that will make me ill in my food either . I see where you are going and I am of the mind that she and/ or her editors left out the pleasant celebs due to some mad idea that they do not make good copy. This is too bad , after cruising sites like Bitterwaitress for years I like knowing who is a mensch as much as I like knowing who is a brat.

Well who would want to read a book about polite, courteous and respectful restaurant patrons, famous or otherwise?

I would like a book with the whole cross section , as I mentioned Bitterwaitress , the revelation of nice vs bratty was shocking.

What happened to the bitterwaitress.com website? It used to have loads of celeb stories but now the stories are few and the people unknown.

I agree, Morticia, it is unethical to use your job like that, it is disgusting that while a person is dining he gets his behavior, looks scrutinized , judged, and later put out in the form of a book, and people just love to hear that so and so in real life is not a 'great guy' that he portrays in the movies but a "mean, demanding so and so" Resentment and jealousy is what 'inspired' her book. I don't know why people care, why they want to know. Life is too short for for the uncouth and vulgar gossip industry.

I'm sure she didn't start out intending to write a book, but became so disgusted by the behavior of the entitled classes that she quit. From yours and smelka's comments, I'd wager that neither one of you has worked as a waitress or a restaurant worker. Restaurant patrons (as well as owners) are notorious for treating the waiters and waitresses with contempt. This can't be a concept that has really taken either of you by surprise. And if people behave reprehensibly, why not expose them? Why do waiters and waitresses owe loyalty to clients that treat them badly?

We haven't read the book, so we really can't judge, just with her remark about someone been allergic
to truffles - " how many people would even know that they are allergic to truffles ?', - I feel that she already dislikes that person ( he wasn't rude to her) because he can afford the truffles.

I haven't worked in the restaurant, but my daughter worked in the small cafe while she was a student, her

boss treated her well and perhaps she was just lucky but I don't remember her been upset with the clients.

You write that she exposed the " disgusting behaviour of the entitled classes"- I think rudeness

exists in all classes, and I was treated with contempt on a few occasions by people who are not well off - sales clerks, waitresses.